Claiming Each Other

Joanne Lockwood is joined by somatic trauma worker and educator Lorie Solis to explore “Claiming Each Other” — Lorie’s approach to building resilient relationships when charged, values-led conflict shows up in our closest circles.

Together they unpack somatics as a whole mind-body practice and how emotional charge, threat responses, and a sense of dignity and belonging shape the way we argue, withdraw, or escalate. Lorie shares practical, body-based ways to create more capacity in moments of tension, including how to pause and de-escalate before conflict takes over.

The conversation also moves into lineage, identity, and decolonisation. Lorie reflects on her mixed ancestry and what it has meant to reconcile both colonised and coloniser histories, including how relocating from Texas to Portugal created new space for healing, reflection, and re-connection to land-based practices. Joanne explores her own feelings of disconnection from ancestry and how community, including queer lineage, can offer a different route to belonging.

Throughout, the episode returns to the possibility of staying in relationship across difference — treating conflict as potentially generative, practising repair, and learning how to be connected imperfectly while remaining rooted in values, care, and authenticity.