Step Into My Shoes

Joanne Lockwood is joined by Rebecca Engle, an autistic special education teacher, author, and advocate, for a candid conversation about what it has meant to grow up, study, and work while navigating autism. Rebecca reflects on early diagnosis, time spent in specialist provision, and later experiences of bullying and mistreatment—alongside the moment she began to understand her “difference” was often defined by other people’s reactions rather than her own sense of self.

They explore day-to-day realities including stimming, sensory overwhelm, communication differences, and the pressures of masking—at school, in relationships, and at work. Rebecca shares practical coping strategies and what has helped her build confidence and self-advocacy, including the role of supportive relationships and being open with her students about neurodiversity.

The discussion also widens to systems: how inclusion operates in US schools through IEPs and 504 plans, where it falls short, and why some behaviour-based approaches can push neurodivergent children towards compliance rather than genuine emotional regulation and autonomy. Rebecca makes the case for identity-affirming support, open dialogue, and environments that adapt—so neurodivergent people can thrive without having to hide who they are.